You met in high school but you were both still kids. Yet sometimes we need to spend just a few moments with a special person and we just know deep down: They will be a big part of our life. Maybe they will be our worst heartbreak. Maybe they will become our spouse and we will have a couple of kids together. You know that whatever life has in store for you two, it’s going to be huge. But sometimes, many years down the road things just don’t work out. You two will be separated but yet still so close in some weird, twisted way. So much history has happened and you’re wondering: Can I ever truly get over this? Maybe you and I will be always unfinished business.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Clinging on to a dead-end relationship harms you mentally and emotionally. It ties you to a life that is long gone. You’re longing for the happy days of the past but eventually, you need to face the truth that it’s over. Of course, it’s easier said than done. I know how heartbreaking it is to let go of what you once thought was the love of your life. I often thought “You and I will always be unfinished business”. But there is a way out of it.
Here is your 4 step game plan after breaking things up for good:
1. Keep your distance.
If you’re always around each other it’s pretty hard to get over your relationship. Stop the visits, the phone calls, the random text messages. Give yourself some space to sort yourself out and allow you to heal.
2. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family
Now it’s crucial to not dwell on your misery forever. That will send you in a downwards spiral of self-pity and lethargy. Instead, hang out with your friends and family and do some fun stuff together to take your mind off it.
3. Get a new exciting hobby
Is there anything that you’ve always wanted to learn? What is it that you always wanted to do? Now that you have a lot of free time to fill up it’s the perfect opportunity to try out new hobbies. Free time is the killer here. Fill up your time with something meaningful rather than focusing on the void that’s left from your break up.
4. Improve your health
Remember to also focus on your mental and physical health after the break-up. Get decent sleep, watch your diet and get regular exercise. It will help your mind cope with the break-up, rebuild confidence and get in great shape for a future relationship. You could try out a new diet, sign up to the gym or start meditating to improve your mental well-being. Bonus points if you do all three.
“You and I will always be unfinished business” – As you can see it doesn’t have to end like that. What’re your best tips to get over a hard break-up? Let us know in the comments.